WOMEN - Do not let sexist words intimidate you away from your best self. If someone says you’re “too emotional,” know that its your passion and compassion that are making them uncomfortable. If someone tells you to stop “nagging” them, know that its your resilience and perseverance that are making them uncomfortable. If someone questions your “mood swings,” point out that being unchanging and even keel, regardless of external stimuli, does not influence or affect change. And, to join the movement, if someone tells you you are “bossy” say thank you, and know that your leadership is making them uncomfortable. For too long we’ve taught people to be actively uncomfortable about women who are bold, strong, resilient, and most of all PROUD and unapologetic. These are all THEM problems (us problems) not YOU problems. I am lucky to be surrounded by many amazing women (and many amazing men who respect and support us) here in Minneapolis and beyond.
I love being horribly straightforward. I love sending reckless text messages (because how reckless can a form of digitized communication be?) and telling people I love them and telling people they are absolutely magical humans and I cannot believe they really exist. I love saying, “Kiss me harder,” and “You’re a good person,” and, “You brighten my day.” I live my life as straight-forward as possible.
Because one day, I might get hit by a bus.
Maybe it’s weird. Maybe it’s scary. Maybe it seems downright impossible to just be—to just let people know you want them, need them, feel like, in this very moment, you will die if you do not see them, hold them, touch them in some way whether its your feet on their thighs on the couch or your tongue in their mouth or your heart in their hands.
But there is nothing more beautiful than being desperate.
And there is nothing more risky than pretending not to care.
We are young and we are human and we are beautiful and we are not as in control as we think we are. We never know who needs us back. We never know the magic that can arise between ourselves and other humans.
We never know when the bus is coming.
To any parents whose children have flown far from the coop…it is only because you love us so well that we are brave enough to go out and explore the world! Don’t let the distance make you sad, let it make you proud! We’re always together, even if not physically. And when we are in the same place it is the best of the best of the best.